The Power of Assuming Competence
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The Power of Assuming Competence

Our assumptions about neurodivergent children shape the opportunities they receive and how they see themselves. In this Bright Side post, Dr. Kandice Benallie explores how ableism shows up in everyday interactions—and why assuming competence can help children grow, connect, and reach their full potential.

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When a Child’s Bucket Is Full: Rethinking Compliance and Connection
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When a Child’s Bucket Is Full: Rethinking Compliance and Connection

Behavioral strategies like positive reinforcement, effective commands, and structured routines are evidence-based and effective—but they are not one-size-fits-all. In this post, we explore the difference between compliance-based interventions and connection-focused approaches, and why a child’s regulation, sensory needs, attachment, and developmental profile matter. When a child’s emotional “bucket” is full, they are far more likely to access learning, executive functioning, and emotional regulation. Here’s how to support behavior from the inside out.

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The Bright Side: Finding Joy (and Calm) During the Holidays With Neurodivergent Kids
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The Bright Side: Finding Joy (and Calm) During the Holidays With Neurodivergent Kids

The holidays can be full of joy, magic, and meaningful moments—especially with neurodivergent kids. Their excitement, creativity, and unique way of experiencing the world often bring a special kind of brightness to the season. And at the same time, the holidays can feel overwhelming. More people, more noise, and fewer routines can add up quickly, even when everyone’s intentions are good. In this post, we explore why the holidays can be hard for some neurodivergent children—and how families can offer support that honors who their child is, without trying to change them.

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